Intimacy Makes You Stronger

The modern man’s guide to navigating pressure without losing presence.

This week, we are finalizing the business acquisition. After 18 months, I’ll officially own two businesses—my private coaching practice and this new one.

This is a big deal and my nervous system knows it.

I’ve been feeling dysregulated.
Anxious.
Agitated.
Wanting to sprint into action before the dust settles.

I’m aware that this false urgency to execute, to get everything done right now, is really just a mask for fear.

“If I can just get ahead,” my mind tells me, “maybe I can outrun the risk.”

The stakes feel higher now and I feel that while there is a lot to gain, there is also more to lose.

And in those moments, I remind myself of something I teach my clients:

“When the pressure is on, you don’t rise to the occasion—you sink to the level of your training.”

So I stayed true to the fundamentals.

Cold plunges.
Breathwork.
Meditation.
Strength training.
Whole food.
Good sleep.

I met the fear in my body and not in my head.

There was also something deeper that saved me:

I didn’t isolate. I reached for brotherhood. I called the men in my life and I told them the truth.

“I’m scared I might fail.”
“I’m scared I put my family at risk.”
“I’m feeling the weight of it all.”

There wasn’t any fixing. The men just stayed with me. They listened. Witnessed. Held space.

And that… changed everything.

After those conversations, I felt strong again.
Not because the anxiety disappeared—but because I didn’t carry it alone.

My wife didn’t have to absorb my stress.
My kids didn’t feel the heaviness in the room.
I stayed playful. Present. Rooted.

This is the power of intimacy among men. It’s not new. It’s actually an ancient practice we’ve had and it’s how we grew as tribe leaders.

Tribes of men have always gathered to tell the truth.
To witness each other.
To remind each other: you’re not alone in this.

If you want that depth with the men in your life, here’s how you start:

1. Build daily practices that anchor you.

Cold exposure. Breathwork. Meditation. Movement.
Men need structure. Without it, we fall into habits that drain us — porn, weed, video games, doomscrolling. These habits receive the energy that we really want to be pouring positively into ourselves to unlock our potential. But instead, we fall unconscious from our God-given desires and fall into our Not-selves.

Your nervous system craves training so give it the good kind.

2. Learn to speak the language of sensation.

Start with the body, not the mind. Feel into your chest, your gut, your breath.

Not “I think I’m anxious.”
But: “I feel tight in my chest. My breath is shallow. My shoulders are bracing.”

This is where healing begins. It’s how we can use the wisdom’s body to move energy through so you can come back to your essence. This is where your power lives.